Hi friends! We’re back with another #WeddingWednesday! This week I am doing a short post on writing your own vows. Before Jesse and I were even engaged, we knew that at our wedding one day we wanted to write our own vows. There’s something so special and personable about it, rather than just repeating what your officiant says. I put together a few tips that helped me write mine!
NERVOUS? Take a deep breath!
When I tell you I was extremely nervous to write my own vows, I was. Not only that, but reading them in front of 230 people… omg. I was mortified. Then I remembered, it’s our WEDDING, who cares! Everyone is there to celebrate us anyway, so I should’t be nervous. I was scared because Jesse is so much better with his words and writing… I was nervous mine weren’t going to compare to his. At the end of the day, I was wrong. Both of our vows were beautiful and so special to the both of us. If you’re nervous, just take a deep breath and remember, you’re marrying the love of your life!! Nothing else matters but that!
This was so helpful for me! About a year before our wedding I created a note on my phone that I could access at any time to write down ideas I had for my vows. When we would go somewhere and make memories, I would write it down. When I heard a song and was inspired, I would write down my thoughts. When I said something to Jesse that was meaningful and special, I took note of that. I think you get what I’m saying, but writing down important moments in our life really helped me put together my vows when the time came to it.
PEN TO PAPER
About three months before our wedding day, I took my notes from my phone, a pen and paper and headed to the beach. One of my favorite spots to hangout and relax. I went by myself on a random day off I had and just started writing. It was definitely a rough draft, but it really helped me create my vows. Once I started writing, the words just came to me. I strongly suggest everyone go to a place they love! From there, the inspiration will come to you, I promise.
After I wrote my vows in my notebook, I went home and typed them on my computer. I had a few more things come to mind while I did this and a few hours later I had my vows! From there, I read them. Over and over and over again. Not kidding, I probably read them over 100 times. It really helped me not only make sure they were cohesive and sounded great, but It actually made it easier for me to read in front of all those people on the day of because I had some of it memorized. I even read them to Makenzie to make sure they were good. I wanted some validation that what I wrote was beautiful. She loved them and after reading them to her, I didn’t change anything! I absolutely loved my vows.
When it comes to your actual wedding day, just breathe. The day goes by SO fast, you really need to soak up every second. You and your significant other won’t actually get a lot of quality time together on the day because you are both running around like crazy! The vows were something that we were able to enjoy and tune out everyone else and just listen to each other. It was something I know I will cherish forever.
If you are planning your own wedding or are helping a friend and need advice, please reach out to us! I would love to offer some help throughout the process. We hope you all enjoyed this #WeddingWednesday and we can’t wait to keep sharing our insights throughout the coming weeks.
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XOXO Kell & Mak